Best Massage Oils and Candles for Easy At-Home Relaxation
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For an erotic massage at home, massage oil is the most versatile, a massage candle adds warmth and ritual, nuru gel is for sliding one body over another, and warming or cooling products are only for small areas. If you're using a latex condom, skip the oil and the candle. A massage at home goes wrong for three reasons, and none of them is a lack of talent: the wrong product, the wrong amount and rushing. This guide is about fixing all three. Which type of product to choose for what you want, how to use it without tiring yourself out after two minutes, and the safety things almost nobody mentions.
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The four types and what each one is for
Massage oil
THE MOST VERSATILEPlant-based, ready as soon as you open it, no waiting. Good glide and it goes a long way on a full body. It's where to start if you've never bought anything like this before. On the downside, it stains bedding and isn't compatible with latex condoms.
Massage candle
THE RITUALSoy or coconut wax that melts at a low temperature: what drips is warm oil, not hot wax, though you should still test the temperature on your own wrist before pouring it onto anyone. It scents the room as it burns, and that wait of about twenty minutes (what the 170 ml Shunga states) is part of the night. Blow out the flame before you pour the melted oil into your hand. And the 170 ml one gives up to 40 hours of burn time, so it lasts for many sessions.
Body-to-body gel (nuru)
FOR PLAYVery slippery, made for sliding one body over another rather than kneading muscle. The EROS one is water-based: you apply it on damp skin, use a generous amount and wash it off with soap and water. Be careful with the shower or bathtub floor, which gets very slippery. It's not the product for a back massage after work.
Warming or cooling effect
SENSATIONThey don't actually heat up: it's a sensation produced by their ingredients and, according to the Swede product page, it depends on the amount and on the friction as you massage. They work very well on small areas and are uncomfortable on a full body. Keep them away from mucous membranes and eyes.
Which one to start with
If you've never bought anything like this, start cheap and see whether you both like the idea before investing. A single-dose sachet like the Exsens Amber Jojoba (3 ml) is good for trying the scent and texture on a small area, like the hands or shoulders; it's too small for a full massage. If you already know you like it, the natural step up is a large bottle of oil, like the Shunga Desire 240 ml, which lasts for many nights.
For a planned night, go with the candle: the mini size of the Shunga Mini Caress is the cheap way to try the ritual, and the large Shunga vanilla candle is the one that really lasts. If you want to play rather than relax, the EROS Nuru gel (water-based) is the body-to-body texture, and the Swede Fruity Love with warming effect is the one that wakes up small areas. If you can't decide between a candle and oil, we compare them in depth in massage candle or oil, and the whole range is in massage oils and candles.
Technique, without the mysticism
Warm the product in your hands
Never pour oil straight onto anyone's back: the cold kills the relaxation instantly. Put it in your palm, rub your hands together for three or four seconds and apply it already warm. With the candle you skip this step, which is half the reason it exists.
Less than you think
You can add more, but you can't take it off. Start with what fits in the hollow of your palm and add more when you feel your hands starting to drag. Too much oil makes the massage slippery and useless: your fingers slide and no pressure gets anywhere.
Pressure comes from weight, not fingers
If you press with the strength of your hands, you'll tire in three minutes and the massage is over. Keep your arms straight and let your body weight fall forward: the pressure comes from there and you can keep it up for half an hour. That's the difference between a two-minute massage and a real one.
Don't lift both hands at once
Always keep one hand in contact with the skin, even when you change area or pour more product. Breaking contact breaks the moment, and it's much more noticeable than it seems.
Slow, long and along the sides
Use long strokes, from the lower back up to the shoulders and back again, always on the sides of the spine, never on top of the vertebrae. Start gently to spread the product and increase the pressure on the second or third pass, once the muscle is warm.
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Safety: what to know first
With a latex condom, no oil. Any oil-based product, candle included, weakens latex and can cause it to break. If the massage is going to end in sex with a condom, keep the oil on the skin outside and have a water-based lubricant handy for the rest. A water-based gel like Eros Nuru is, according to its product page, compatible with latex.
It's not intimate lubricant. These products are formulated for external skin. They don't go inside or on mucous membranes, no matter how edible the label says they are: edible means it isn't toxic if you taste it, not that it's suitable for internal use.
Never a decorative candle. The paraffin in a regular candle melts at a much higher temperature and really burns. Only use one formulated as a massage candle, and the manufacturer says so clearly on the packaging.
Be careful with silicone toys. Silicone-based products can leave the surface of a silicone toy sticky, and plant oils, besides staining, damage TPE or rubber toys. If you're going to use toys in the same session, wash them before they come into contact or stick to water-based products.
Nut allergy: check the label. Several of the products in this guide contain nut oils: the Shunga vanilla candle contains sweet almond and pecan (as well as sesame), the 240 ml Shunga oil contains sweet almond and the Swede warming oil contains macadamia nut, according to their product pages. Always check the ingredient list: the reaction hits over a large area of skin.
Sensitive skin: test on your forearm first. Apply a little, wait a few minutes and see how it responds. Irritation usually comes from the fragrances and aromatic allergens in the formula (the Shunga vanilla candle, for example, includes eugenol, cinnamal and benzyl benzoate in its ingredient list), so the safest option is short formulas without strong scent.
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The most common mistakes
Using the product cold. Using too much on the first application. Kneading on top of the spine instead of along the sides. Rushing the candle and pouring when there's barely a pool. Forgetting the towel and finding the stain the next day. And the most common of all: doing it in a cold room, where no massage relaxes anyone.
Frequently asked questions
Is cooking oil okay?
Coconut oil technically works, but it smells like food, it isn't made for massage and, like any oil, it weakens latex condoms. Olive oil is too thick and leaves you feeling like you ended up in a salad. For what a small bottle costs, it's not worth it.
How long should a decent session last?
Twenty minutes done well are worth more than an hour of tired hands. If it's your first time, stick to fifteen or twenty minutes per person: that's plenty of time for the other person to relax, and enough that you don't end up with wrecked wrists.
Does it stain much?
Oil does, and the stain is hard to get out. What drips from a massage candle is also oil and can stain the sheets. A big towel underneath solves the whole problem and avoids the one guaranteed argument of the night.
Can you use it on the face?
Better not. These are formulas made for the body, with fragrances that can irritate on the face, and a scented product has no place near the eyes. There are specific cosmetics for the face.
What if my partner doesn't like having their feet touched?
Ask beforehand and respect the answer, without pushing. Uncomfortable areas just get skipped: a massage you have to endure isn't a massage. Starting with the back and shoulders almost always works, and from there you can see how far you both feel like going.
Written with Lova, the Loviux AI · reviewed by the Loviux team