How to Choose Your First Sex Toy: A Complete Beginner's Guide

Buying your first sex toy can feel overwhelming, especially with so many options out there. But don't worry, you're not alone. In fact, they're very common: in a representative US survey, 52.5% of women had used a vibrator (Herbenick et al., 2009). This means many people have already taken that first step towards self-discovery and personal pleasure.

When you decide to explore sex toys, it's normal to feel a bit lost among so many shapes, sizes, materials and features. Still, choosing a sex toy is a personal decision, and the process should be fun and liberating.

You're probably wondering where to start. Don't worry, we've put this guide together to make it simpler and help you find the right toy for you. From vibrators and dildos to cock rings and Kegel balls, we'll walk you through the key things to consider, such as comfort, the type of stimulation you want and the materials that are safest for your body.

Remember, there's no wrong choice when it comes to exploring your own pleasure. What matters most is that you feel comfortable and excited to find out what you really like. So relax, take a deep breath and join us on this journey of self-discovery and fun. Your first sex toy is just a few steps away.

You're probably wondering how to get started with your new sex toy. Don't worry, here's a simple guide to make your first experience as enjoyable as possible.

First, when you open the box, you'll notice everything is carefully packed. It's important to wash your toy before using it for the first time. Use warm water and a mild soap or a cleaner made for sex toys. This not only keeps things hygienic, it also helps you get familiar with its texture and shape.

Before you start exploring, make sure your toy is fully charged. Most modern toys have rechargeable batteries, and it's important they're at 100% to avoid interruptions. Battery life varies a lot: a Satisfyer Pro 2 Modern Blossom, for example, states around 60 minutes after 2 hours of charging, and a LELO Loki Wave 2 up to 2 hours. Check the figure on the product page.

When you explore for the first time, it's a good idea to do it on your own. This lets you focus on your sensations without distractions. Create a comfortable, relaxing atmosphere: soft music, dim lighting and maybe a scented candle can help set the right mood.

When you use the toy, don't forget lubricant. Even if your body already produces enough natural lubrication, a little extra help can make the experience much more enjoyable. Choose a water-based lubricant, as it's safe for most of the materials toys are made from.

Experiment without the pressure of reaching orgasm. The idea is to get to know your body and find out what you like most. Try different intensities and rhythms, and don't be afraid to stop if something doesn't feel right. It's normal to think at first that "it's not working". This may be down to nerves or because you haven't yet found what really stimulates you. Remember that clitoral stimulation may be part of what you enjoy, so take your time to explore it.

Finally, if you feel something isn't right, check whether the toy is properly charged, whether you're using enough lubricant, or whether you simply need a bit more time to relax. Practice makes perfect, and every experience will help you get to know your preferences and desires better. Enjoy this journey of self-discovery!

If you've just bought your sex toy, congratulations on taking this step towards greater wellbeing and personal enjoyment. Before you use it for the first time, it's essential to clean it properly. Use warm water and a mild soap to remove any manufacturing residue. This not only makes sure it's in perfect condition, it also protects your intimate health. If you prefer, you can also use a cleaning spray made for sex toys, although it isn't essential.

After each use, clean it with warm water and mild soap; if it isn't fully waterproof (submersible) (the product page says so: an IPX7 one is), use a damp cloth and don't put it under water. This is crucial to prevent bacteria from growing and to keep your toy in top condition. Cleaning sprays are a quick and effective option if you want extra cleaning, but always make sure you rinse the toy well afterwards to avoid irritation. Once it's clean, dry it with a clean, dry towel. Then leave it to air-dry until no moisture is left, especially around seams and buttons, before putting it away.

Finally, store your toy in its case or pouch, away from direct sunlight and extreme temperatures. This will help preserve its materials and keep it ready for the next time you use it. If you go a while without using it, give it a charge now and then: the battery lasts better if it isn't left empty for long. With this simple routine of using, washing, drying and storing, your sex toy will stay in perfect condition and ready to give you pleasure whenever you want.